An Afternoon at TJ’s

Here with friends at the Jefferson Memorial we remembered our pal, Sean Holton, marking one year since his passing. He loved this spot, called it TJ’s.


Claudine Hellmuth, Paul Lester, David Blank and Craig Crawford (12/1)

Recited in the above video:

Gone From My Sight
by Henry Van Dyke

I am standing upon the seashore. A ship, at my side,
spreads her white sails to the moving breeze and starts
for the blue ocean. She is an object of beauty and strength.
I stand and watch her until, at length, she hangs like a speck
of white cloud just where the sea and sky come to mingle with each other.

Then, someone at my side says, “There, she is gone”

Gone where?

Gone from my sight. That is all. She is just as large in mast,
hull and spar as she was when she left my side.
And, she is just as able to bear her load of living freight to her destined port.

Her diminished size is in me — not in her.
And, just at the moment when someone says, “There, she is gone,”
there are other eyes watching her coming, and other voices
ready to take up the glad shout, “Here she comes!”

And that is dying…
 
 

Orlando Sentinel: Former editor Sean Holton chronicled death with a writer’s eye

23 thoughts on “An Afternoon at TJ’s

  1. a mighty big woo hoo for sean and patsi

    The idea of an annual remembrance month is wonderful to include everyone whose person may be gone but whose memory lasts forever.

    jamie and sjwny, maybe next year on the dia de los muertos, all saints day, all souls day or all the above we can have our own day of memorable friends. according to wiki seems a lot of folks other than the aztec found november ( give or take a month) a fitting time to remember family and friends.

  2. Sunday Serendipity.

    For those who mark time by the church calendar.
    Something for the First Sunday in Advent. Enjoy.

  3. patd: Great idea about All Souls Day. Celebrate the life of a loved one.

    Jace:Advent! And does anyone still follow Advent calendars? Growing up these events were looked forward to. Waking up each morning and opening the next “window” on the calendar to count down to Christmas. Lighting a candle each week -- simple things that brought home the meaning of Christmas. Sometimes traditional is still the best.
    Thanks for bringing that topic up. I can now smell pine boughs and bayberry. Good memories -- of Christmas past and family no longer with me. They’ll always be around :)

  4. Sjwny,

    I lit the candle this morning, I don’t have an Advent calendar, but remember having them. I love Advent.
    I think that most of my Christmas memories are really Advent memories, I just did not realize it at the time. :smile:

  5. Craig… LOVE the paper cupping of Jameson in front the Jefferson Memorial…. now that’s the way to celebrate a live well lived.

    I miss Lardass Liberal, Patsi, and many other friends and family members too. Glad I can now remember my mom without tearing up and think of the good times we had.

    jeeeebuuuus Patd… I wanted to lick the screen…

  6. Was it Jameson as Renee said? I want to match the drink… I guess rememberance is all that really counts.

  7. I think it’s so nice that you folks could get together at TJ’s for a memorial poem and a toast of Sean’s fave libation. Thanks for sharing this video.

  8. btw due to certain legal implications I cannot confirm (or deny) reports that a bit of sean’s ashes might or might not be refreshing the roots of the tree in that video

  9. craig, better delete or edit your 1:09 am yesterday wherein you stated before the whole world and nat’l park cops

    we’re going to the Jefferson Memorial on Saturday afternoon with friends to [....] in the Tidal Basin

    bracketed deletion by this commenter to protect the innocent poobah

  10. come to think of it, the park police would probably find lard a lot less objectionable than one rep mills and his stripper friend fannie dunking drunk among other things in the tidal basin.

  11. Can’t believe it’s been a year. I loved his wonderful postings and periodically have gone back this last year to re-read a favorite or two. If I still lived in DC I might have joined you yesterday (if invited).
    By the way, when is the wedding?

  12. I LOVE this place and all of you. Just in case you missed any of that. There are friends you know and Friends you know. The ones here are more real

  13. What a wonderful view of Jefferson Memorial and you four creating Sean’s memorial. The atmosphere,weather,and location were tangible as was your love for Sean.

    ‘The thirst that from the soul doth rise doth ask a
    drink divine…’ and that divine drink was the Palestrina. Thanks, Jace.

    I skyped the boy in France late last night, and they were opening their advent calendars, or should I say
    eating them?

  14. “and that divine drink was the Palestrina.”

    Bethy,

    Indeed he was. Glad you enjoyed it.

    I am all for edible Advent calendars. ;-)

    jace

  15. My mom would have been 99 on November 27, if she were still alive. On that day, I was sitting doing some paperwork when I was filled with the need to have a conversation with her. So I did. I sat with tears streaming down my face, telling her things I’ve wanted her to know for the thirteen years she’s been gone. Craig and David, and all who loved them, I wish you many wonderful conversations with Sean and Patsi.

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